loneliness is the most vulnerable reason for women

loneliness is the most vulnerable reason for women

One person can be happy, two people can be happy 

"If a woman can overcome the fear of'a person', her life will be invincible!" This is a paragraph from my previous speech to share with you.

Because I often hear many women tell me that they don't dare to do many things alone, which makes me a little surprised.

I also feel that many people (not only women) are often afraid of being alone and lonely. They are afraid of being alone and will find a partner, or fall in love casually in order to solve loneliness, but in the end they make themselves more lonely and unhappy.

Is it happier if you force yourself to get along with people who are not suitable because you are afraid of being alone? Perhaps, try to start eating, shopping, watching movies, going to class, financial management, traveling alone... and overcome the dependence of having someone to accompany you, and you will be able to control your life better! There is nothing to be afraid of.

I found that many girls really don’t dare to do a lot of things "by themselves". Girls with a lively personality said she dare not go shopping alone. Girls with boyfriends said that they dare not go anywhere without a boyfriend, so she must do everything. Have her boyfriend by her side. The princess who has someone to help her do everything for her physiology, of course, thinks that if someone can do things for her, why waste her energy.

It turns out that many girls have no feet without a boyfriend. They lose their sense of security without anyone around them, and they don't know how to do things without anyone relying on them. If they don't have anyone with her, they feel pitiful. Many girls feel lonely, pitiful, lonely, and helpless when they are alone.

This makes me wonder whether the education in our society from an early age is to protect girls too well, so that girls feel that obedience is good, and goodness is a good girl. It's best not to have any opinions, don't be different from others, don't run too far, go home late, because the outside world is too dangerous, so it's best for girls to stay home and stay at home the safest. However, girls will still grow up and still have to step out of a world full of protection! Instead of telling her that it is dangerous outside, it is better to teach him how to protect himself in the face of danger and how to be a smart girl.

In the past, women were afraid of being alone, perhaps because under social pressure, it was not a good thing for girls to be single, and it was a problem for girls to have no company or to marry. Women are married at home, and few women can express opinions and decide the status of important things. So let women habitually think that dependence is a normal phenomenon, even proud.

This is a terrible phenomenon, just like when I met a woman who told me that the secret of happiness is: "Just crying can solve the problem" (it's shocking!) , I have also met many people who do not go out without a man, Without feet, I don't know the way, I don't know how to go home. Of course, they also feel that they are very happy, there is nothing wrong with them. But I always think, what if there are no more men one day?

So you will find that many women need someone to accompany them because they are unwilling to be lonely, and accidentally be with a man who happens to chase her and can accompany her. And because I am used to being accompanied by someone and dare not be alone, having a boyfriend is better than not being friendly.

It’s better to have a person next to him than to sleep alone. Even if the man just wants to sleep with her, she can’t do without the person who is not suitable for her and treats her badly.

Therefore, the main reason for many miserable loves is not "Why do I love him so much, but he treats me so much?",

But you are not willing to be lonely. You can't be alone, so you can't do without bad people.

 Fear of loneliness is the most vulnerable reason for women.

 Speaking of "a person", for myself, I am not born alone to be alone and solve problems, nor am I born to like a person. However, the process of growing up forced me to learn how to solve problems alone by myself. I seem to be strong and I am actually an average little woman in my heart. "A person" is a learning process, but every time I overcome and solve my own obstacles, Feeling timid and nervous, I bit my head and walked forward. I found that learning how to face this world alone is a valuable life experience.

Because in that process, I had a dialogue with myself, encouraged myself, and believed that I could do it. The moment I did it, I realized that I was different. It was a very moving and moving moment. 

I still remember the first time I traveled abroad on my own. I was so scared and uneasy. I thought I would always be afraid. But when I went abroad, I found out how wonderful it is to walk alone if you want to talk to yourself and go anywhere. Where I want to go, I can overcome the barriers of language and country. I have been deeply moved by the moment when I travel alone. It was the best trip in my life. It's not the beauty that someone can get with someone. It's a completely different feeling. If you try it, you can feel the excitement in my heart. (Traveling alone is beautiful, but safety is the most important, and you must also know how to protect yourself)

I do not deny that someone will accompany this matter. It is good to have someone to accompany. Many times our lives require the support and company of many relatives and friends. Each of us needs love and company. But, apart from that, a person is also a subject we have to learn to face.

If we can't be happy alone, how can we expect two people to be happy together? Just like, before you want others to love you, why don't you love yourself first?

 A person can live freely and happily, can enjoy the beauty of being alone, be able to treat oneself well (rather than waiting for others to treat you well), one can fill oneself with energy and radiate happiness to others, no matter who you are with, you find With the other half, you can also bring happiness to him, so that two people are happy together, instead of dragging each other down and unhappy.

Think about it, no one likes someone who is unhappy all day long! If you want love and happiness, you must first be a loving and happy person. This is also a law of attraction. What kind of person you are, what kind of people will be attracted to approach, and if you want positive people and energy to come to your life, you must first become such a person. So, before others bring you happiness, learn to make yourself happy!

 Being alone is one of my personal favorite times. Because I can think well, don't have to talk, so that I can understand myself better.

Enjoying being alone and being able to enjoy getting along is the most wonderful balance in life.

 Fear of facing a person's friend, try to overcome your own obstacles (obstacles are all given by yourself), try to take the first step bravely! 

To learn that one person can live happily, two people will be happy together!

 For every "one".

PS. I believe that when you feel abundance and satisfaction in your heart when you are alone, full of love, you will feel happy, and you will also feel happy for yourself.

A person's happiness is: "I believe that I can also make myself live well." You will not complain about yourself, sigh, complain about others, or curse the happiness of others. Because you believe that one day you can get it, and it is worth having happiness. Then, the time of a person now is just to prepare for a better future. When you are ready and feel full of abundance and love, your happiness belongs to you and the right person will come to your life. No matter how long it is, when you believe it, you will get it.

Until then, get along with yourself, treat yourself well, respect yourself, and improve yourself! You will become a better person, and you will deserve a good person to love you.