The Exit Mechanism of Love, deserve better love
Once I saw a woman who was a little old but still charming, and thought she should be a beauty when she was young, but now she seems to be getting older. Later, when she came to say hello to me, she was surprised to find that we had met many years ago. At the time she had a boyfriend who was younger than me..
OMG! She was so beautiful and dazzling at that time, she was a big beauty that everyone admired, and even her boyfriend was not worthy of him, I was so surprised how many years later, she had so much vicissitudes I can't recognize the change?
Others asked her, "Are you still dating xxx?" She frowned and said with a wry smile that she was still the same. I know that she is unhappy, and anyone can tell that she has no happiness at all. Her boyfriend once said to the public that he would not marry her, because her family background is average, her education is not as good as him, and she can't get through his family. (I have to say that many people have eyes on the top of their heads)
That day I was embarrassed to ask her why she had to wait so hard to let her a good beauty kill so many years of youth, no longer happy and beautiful. Can not help but sigh deeply, good love will make people sparkle, bad love will make people bleak. A woman's happiness is written on her face, and it can't deceive anyone at all.
Many women are prone to blind spots when they fall in love (in fact, men are also). They think that love is hers after staying in the kiln and standing under the theater for a long time.
But it is easy to waste time, give up your emotional body, and hold the mentality of waiting until one day you will definitely look back, unwilling, unwilling, feeling that it has already taken so much time, it is better to just bet on the whole life mentality In the end, it is often a tragedy, and it will be very regrettable.
Fake breakup, real relationship
I heard the story of another girl. She had been dating her boyfriend for two or three years. The boy once told a friend directly that the fortune-teller said that he would meet the goddess next year. I was dumbfounded because when he said this, The girlfriend was still with him (but she didn't hear it), and I suddenly felt worthless and sad for that girl.
When your boyfriend is taking you out, telling others like this, what do you think of you? Can you find a substitute for the "did file" before the girl?
Because I don’t know girls, it’s not convenient to say anything. Later, when I met the girl again, I heard that they broke up. She said that in the year since they broke up, they would still go out on dates for dinner, but on the surface they were telling others that they broke up.
However, I asked the girl, "Do you think you will get back together?" The girl hesitated. I can see that she still likes this "ex-boyfriend" very much. The boy said that she broke up and she cooperated. The boy was bored and wanted to find She also cooperates with people eating, watching movies and going to bed. An ex-girlfriend with such a high degree of cooperation, met a man who kept using her , I, a bystander, can only sigh and shake my head.
There are also many female friends who say that they have used the "high degree of cooperation" to redeem the boyfriend who doesn't love him. When he is an underground lover (from a real girlfriend to a princess or an invisible love ) , they will not even refuse to be with each other On a date, let the other party use your remaining feelings for him to warm up again and again, and then say that we are not suitable, we are not together... In the end, you will regret it, and even feel that you are so mean and hate yourself.
I’ve been standing under the theater for a long time, and the ending is not yours either
But many women who love deeply have a spirit of hard work and dedication. They deeply feel that even if they don’t want to get married (perhaps he doesn’t want to marry, but doesn’t want to marry you), they can wait silently until the day when he changes, just under the theater. It’s yours after standing for a long time.
So I've seen many girls associate with a guy who says they don’t want to get married, or is still a long way away from marriage, and dare not rush him. She will work hard to cooperate with him, please all the relatives and friends around him, and make everyone invisible. Put pressure on him tangibly. Girls have been with you for so long. It's time to explain.
I once had an unmarriage boy who said that if he really wants to account for his girlfriend who has been with him for many years, he can only bite the bullet and do it (but he can see that he doesn’t want to, and he doesn’t want that day. ), every time I see his girlfriend of marriageable age next to him, I think, if one day a man marries me, just to explain, will this marriage I am coming go on happily? I do not know.
If you really make up your mind to get married and have children, then it’s best to find a boy who also has this direction and plans for the future . Otherwise, I’ve seen many girls who have been procrastinated because they have found the wrong partner, making themselves missed again and again (in fact She can meet more and better objects), in the end, it was not a waste of her time, but also forced herself to have no choice.
Why associate with people who look down on you?
Some people will associate with a person who dislikes them, a girl because her boyfriend has a good family and a high degree of education, and her boyfriend’s family are all highly educated students studying abroad, but the girl has not graduated from college and has not gotten a desk job. Or backed by family background, in order to associate with him and make his family look up to him, he had to find a college as soon as possible, and because of this he couldn't work. Moreover, because he can't work and can only rely on his boyfriend for food and clothing, he also loses his autonomy in money. I was thinking, if she really got a diploma, would the other party look down on her?
Many people will meet a partner who despises himself. He may despise your background, your job, your past, your family, your friends...or your life circle, so he will treat you in a negative manner , Makes you feel that you are not good enough and not worthy of him.
But I really don’t understand, a person who really loves you will accept everything about you, and how can he deny you? So, does he really like you? Please don't lie to yourself.
If you accept someone who looks down on you, maybe it's because you also look down on yourself.
You feel that you are not good enough, so you need to cling to him, you feel that you are not good enough to have love, so you will fall in love in a way of wronging yourself. A friend said that his significant other would use vicious words to deny her family, just because his family is not rich. I was sad to hear that, for me, it is impossible for me to associate with someone who would deny my family, because who wants their family to be insulted?
Learn to let go, you deserve better love
When many girls encounter this emotional ghost hitting the wall, they often get stuck in this loss, reluctant to score, can't let go, and feel that the other party may also like themselves, as long as he comes to you, you will still cooperate and leave yourself other For more important things, be a less important person in his eyes.
Many people have experienced this, and in the end they are always sad, crying, or deeply regretful, my dear, if he really loves you so much and you are so important, he won't be willing to ruin you and treat you like this!
You have to know that you are a worthy woman, you deserve happiness and happiness, and a person who truly loves you.
Don't let yourself become bleak and dull after falling in love, because a good man will make you more glowing and shining. If this person no longer makes you happy, when you know that love no longer makes you shine, you have to learn, turn around and leave.
Let yourself stand up gracefully and leave. Don’t let yourself stand in a dark theater, and don’t believe in those who say they still love you, but still don’t want to be brave enough to be with you openly . Don’t let your feelings become a tool for others to use.
Please believe that you will have a better life!
You will get better if you leave, respect yourself, and you will live better.
PS. This article is written from the standpoint of a girl. In fact, both men and women will encounter the same problems. For boys, if a girl is always reluctant to confess to you publicly, maybe you have to think carefully about whether you want to continue this shameless love.
